Getting Started: Why is it so difficult?
HR: So, why is it so hard for many people to get started on their organizing projects?
SB: These projects have often been put off for a long time, and being stuck can really make people feel bad about themselves.
HR: Say more about that - bad in what way?
SB: There can be lots of reasons - they may feel stressed, or overwhelmed – maybe they’ve been putting it off for so long because they don’t know where to start. Sometimes they’re afraid of what they could find during the process, and are anticipating how difficult decision-making will be with possessions that have a lot of emotions attached to them.
HR: So sometimes, dread is a barrier, too. How can people get over that hurdle?
SB: As I mentioned in the previous post, it can be helpful to start small, with a project that can be finished in 15-20 minutes.
HR: That reminds me of some advice from a psychologist colleague of mine (Dr. Glenn Hirsch) who had specialized in academic skills for college students. When his students were struggling with procrastination, he would encourage them to commit to studying for just 5 minutes at a time. Often, they would find that once they got started, it wasn’t so bad, and they would work for longer than originally planned.
SB: That’s true with organizing, too - once people get started, it’s easier for them to continue. Sometimes when I’m working with Giddy-Up! clients, we find other ways to make the experience less dread-inducing, like listening to music or watching Netflix while we organize. It can even help to find a comfortable spot to sit, and to have a favorite snack or beverage on hand.
HR: I think your clients find your presence supportive as well.
SB: Yes, I think the accompaniment of a friend, family member, or a professional organizer can be that “giddy-up” that people need to get started. Working with another person helps create accountability. It’s a commitment to dedicating time and energy to the project. If you need help getting started, that’s definitely not a failure, character flaw, or skill deficit – asking for help is actually a sign of courage!